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Who's to judge me?

Why is it that everyone looks down on young, single mothers? I took my daughter to school, and there's of course that whole group of perfect, stay-at-home, bake-sell organizing, fun-raising mom's glaring as I walk in the door with her. None the less, one of the women is una hermana, one of the raza, and she was hating. I couldn't believe it. My girl cried the first day of school, but I had to leave her there...I had to be at work, and I was already late. WHat could I do?

SO this hermana comes up to me the next morning (my homegirl had picked her up from school) and was like, I just wanted you to know that Mariana cried for a little bit after you left her here, and you should really not do that to her. If I couldnt make time to support my daughter in her education, then I didnt have my priorities in order. I was like oh girl, you didnt just go there. I was pissed. And that lady's daughter asked my daughter why her daddy never brought her to school. I was just like WHAT?! My baby doesnt need a man to take her anywhere or do anything for her. We're makin it just fine on our own.

My kids are always dressed, always clean, always fed, and always in good taste. I dont send her to school all flammed up, nor do I take her to school dressed so. I might have black hair, wear fitted denims, gold jewels, and yes...i even push a truck on rims, but what does that mean? That doesnt mean I'm a chola or a drug dealer or a prostitute or anything of the sort. I am a regular, everyday mom. I work, I go to college and I do for my kids any and everything within reason. Why is that so wrong? If their daddy wasnt doing for us, and I can do so on my own, who's to judge us? Who's to say that I cant give them everything he could, twice fold?

It's hard for me to face opposition in something that I'm trying so hard to make it at. I'm busting my ass working right now just so I wont have to work as much once college gets started again, so I can still have time to do all I have to do with my kids. If people would stop looking down on me and give me a real chance, they'd see I'm just as much of a "Betty Crocker mom" as everyone else.

Babygirl Rodriguez